What do guys appreciate in a girl

As would you, right? This is a basic expectation we all have from our partners - that they will integrate into our lives, and become a part of our inner circle as opposed to pulling us away from them. It's the same thing for men! Just like women, men, too, need to feel safe in a relationship. When you show him that you care about his well-being, it makes him feel secure with you, and of course, adds to your trust level. Everybody has their boundaries, and you should not do anything you're uncomfortable with.

That said, sharing new experiences with your partner can bring you closer! Gone are the days when men wanted women they could control and boss around. It not only makes any woman more attractive but also makes men feel better about themselves. Cooking skills. That's one of the best ways to win a man's heart! Sometimes it's very important to stop being serious and just relax. Long messy hair. It is always associated with a woman's youth and good health.

Their care. Every man wants their woman to become a loving mother to them when they feel helpless. The smart way to go about things is that you acknowledge the superficial side of things and win in the areas where you can win.

My point is simple: Learn to be great at sex and learn to love sex — it helps. Sadly, women tend to pick the features about themselves that they dislike the most and focus on those. You would do best to follow the way that men see women and focus on your best features too. I have seen relatively plain looking women turn into super hot knockouts just by getting in shape, wearing clothes that flatter their body-type , and learning the kind of makeup look that turns men on. However, this has a far deeper impact than just how he sees you physically.

What do I mean by market value? The fact is, acting like a challenge for no reason or making a man chase you is simply annoying and feels manipulative. What does work is…. What does that mean? It means that not every man could have you. Only the best man can have you — the man who wins you. The trick is — you need to keep your market value high.

You need to be a woman who other men would jump at the chance to be with if given the opportunity. Granted, I went over a lot in this article and I would encourage you to re-read it and really think about everything, so go ahead and think about it. If nothing else, leave me a short comment about anything — I just want feedback so I can keep making my stuff better and better.

Thank you. I love writing articles to help people free themselves from suffering and have clarity in their love life. I have a degree in Psychology and I've dedicated the last 20 years of my life to learning everything I can about human psychology and sharing what gets people out of struggling with life and into having the life they really want.

If you want to contact me, feel free to reach out on Facebook or Twitter. Wear the kind of makeup look that turns men on, you said. What is it? Maybe we need photo examples of makeup looks, that are right for this. This can change with the times, so even if I posted examples they may no longer be relevant after some time passes. Find only forums that are populated by only men where they feel free to speak openly about guy stuff with the assumption that only men are listening.

For example, if you like outdoorsy type guys, search for forums that center around such things. Understand that guys have certain ways of communicating that other men understand not to take seriously.

The purpose of this is to see what kind of women the men you like, like. Oftentimes the images presented to women have a grain of truth but have been twisted into a grave distortion of what men are attracted to.

Not all men are attracted to the same things. And men are more forgiving than women might think in many ways that might surprise you just as many men would be surprised at how forgiving women can be in certain unexpected ways. When you know this going in, it prepares you not to be sidetracked. The same is true for women so I want to make clear that both men and women have their areas where they feel stifled and repressed too. Hmmm whilst all great and lovely, I would be interested to know what is reasonable to expect in return,.

I was a woman of high value, and once he got me he drove me into ground, and once crushed under the weight of his continual expectation to be in his corner, he droppped me like a hot potatoe.

Me and this guy started out friends with benefits , then yes I had feelings but never mentioned them, then when he saw I was chilled and ok he told me he Loved me. He moves in months later, things are great. He proposed and we were planning to marry all his idea. He all the time feels like he needs to be on his phone with his nephew and his wife. He made plans over a week ago to have dinner, drinks with his nephew on Wednesday and that was fine. My birthday is Saturday and he asked if I wanted to go somewhere for the weekend and I said sure, I work some nights at my own Healthcare business and on Tuesday he states his nephew had to cancel because him and his wife their anniversary is Weds.

So he planned to go to dinner and drinks Friday. He can be wishy washy and self centered. My question am I making to much out of this? My opinion is the only one that matters. He was surprised by what I said. I have always believed that you get what you give. You should know if you want to be in a relationship by now. Should I wait or go bout my life? One concern I have though is he seems very defensive when I speak about his ex, the reason why I brought his 3x up is because he made remarks about her current boyfriend which were rather negative and seemed as though he is jealous or perhaps still hurt about went down between them, they share a child so she has to be in his life.

Let me know your thoughts. Your articles have been very helpful. I am in a LDR that was intense in terms of several texts a day to three short ones a day. I did not ask what was wrong. I was just wondering. He appears engaged when we do facetime. He loves words and trivia so I will see how to integrate those kinds of things in our relationship.

Since that remark, he appears to put slightly more content in texts. I think he is trying to figure things out or talking about sex really turns him on. Not sure which. How do you date an adult nerd over 55? Hi there I actually enjoyed your quiz. I just got out of a divorce and was actually not ready to be in a relationship. Thanks for your time and advice. Regards Lynne. Met a man over 30 yrs ago from another country. He is the truly the love of my life in my heart.

We had a real love connection and affair to remember. In ways I feel like I already have, yet our lives go on yet I know our hearts beat the same. What can I do? What does he want. Will he ever be mine in the real world? I am still lost on specifically how to be a muse for a really successful man who is obviously a winner already. I know that I messed up but I apologized for being kinda flaky. Can I ask him to teach me to be more consistent at communicating? I guess I would feel stupid circling back all interested in a man who might not have liked me that much from the start….

But if there were a way to do it that would test if he likes me without putting him off more like Im chasing that would be fun. I feel excited every time I open my email and read something like this especially something related to your true to life experiences.

It really helps. Good work. Keep it up. You and Sabrina are awesome individuals. It is an enlightenment……. Thank you Eric…. You have helped me immensely in my life, I want to thank you for your wise thoughts, advice but wonder did you find true love is it possible to find true love? I was a bit disappointed by one of the love story you shared which started on high compatibility and chemistry but ended up sore like you got focused on something else and she stopped caring about staying healthy and sexy all..

I fared fine in my relationship sector which was a very weak point. Thanks a ton. I wanted to know should I look at some that are around and send him the details or should I book as a surprise? Does that mean it has to end? I really enjoyed your article. He has always kept me at bay. We met on Match and found out we went to the same high school. He was 1 year ahead of me. So we immediately had a connection and grew up near each other.

However, We went to my company Christmas party and had a really nice time. I was leaving town for Christmas and wanted to find out. He texted me all through my birthday and Christmas. I call him a pinger. I was really hurt because he knew that I wanted to spend that special time with him. I am looking for some advice about what to think about that and what to do next. The fact that you tried your best to make the issue understandable as much as its importance is. Can say Just Thank you. What r some examples of him winning me over?

If that makes sense. On the physical appearance level, be as hot as you can… so do what you can to be in good shape, have good hair, good makeup, good skin, etc. Pleasure-chasing, cravings and general hedonism is the bi-product of wanting to cover up ongoing unhappiness with pleasure as a distraction this pleasure can even include chasing new romantic possibilities in hopes of finding happiness through it. And the ones that you attract will be good options that make sense for you and fit with you well.

Our state of being has an impact on who we attract. Uh I want sex. From a man. Obviously we need to get things from each other.

This is the whole point and what draws people together. Girls who need to be told to have a life and get in shape…. Problem is a girl like me with intimacy fears who pulls away and pushes away men all the time and spends way too much time alone pursuing her own stuff does not benefit from this.

I am tired of being disconnected. I feel like sex with an intimacy would help me. He loves you — not what you do or how you look or your interests or opinions… but how you are. Your being. He feels seen by you. He feels like you are his sanctuary from the world… he feels safe with you and trusts you that he can be vulnerable with you.

He feels you understand him and see him… understand his mission in life and who he is as a man in the world. Ive been with a guy over a year now we were friends for 6 months before that The issue is he was always a bachelor and never married or had kids well neither did I, he never lived with a woman either.

Hes a golfer as well so is his family. He hangs with another golf friend whose married and at times they go to bars with 22 year old girls who are barmaids at that golf course.

Hes good friends with the owner as well. So I just recently found this out and Im quite upset and he sees nothing wrong with it as he said its his friends daughter and he feels she should be protected. Im the one who is his girlfriend and he should protect me and I have no family around here either. Quite some time back I did a few things to upset him and he told all his family and friends in that golf course I only met 3 of his friends to date and have not met his family yet!

There is one girl whose a waitress and shes telling him im not good to dump me she dates his brother. I never met this woman! They are all french and this is in a french town We live in the english town across from it he lives closeby. Also Im out of work and hes now out of work but hell be doing a side business soon. My self esteem is not good now although he tells me Im his woman, Im gorgeous etc also not meeting his family for like 2 years is very demeaning to me as well since I do not have alot of social life here.

He keeps promising I will meet his family to date it has not happened, he said hes taking me golding there next week. I dont feel so happy as that girl may be there working, dont get where she gets off with all this power over me and him but anyhow Im at a loss about what to do? What do you suggest? He said he loves me and I love him but this is killing the love…….

Forgot to mention hes done more to me than I have done to him. I have been committed since day 1, devoted, loyal, honest, took care of him when hes been sick, supported him as a golf coach thats why this year he may come 1st, he was 15th when we met.

Things go great then hes distant and I dont see him and find out he met a girl in a bar and drove her home. ANother time there was a married 61 yr old lady after him and on his phone too.

I have given him lots of time more than most people would.. He said it is. Later he changes his mind and is unsure. They almost month later, he is messaging me a lot. I ask myself is it fine? Is it okay to be ignore off and on by him? Great article. On the superficial level, do your best with being as fit and healthy as you can. Your body will look more attractive, but there are many other benefits that come with being in great shape.

Learn to be great with your beauty: hair, nails, makeup, etc. It only improves how attracted people are to you, so you would be doing yourself a huge disservice to not do your best in these areas. On the deeper level, the best way to raise your market value is to make your mood your 1 priority. People feel good around happy people. People want to be around and spend time with happy people. This could be said for your reactions to things happening in your life or even reactions to your own thoughts inside your mind.

You become someone that feels good to be around. You no longer feed into drama or negativity. You become like the sun, radiating good feelings… and everyone picks up on it and wants to be near you. How you feel on the inside radiates outward. If your inner experience feels great to you… clean, clear, simple… then your presence will feel really good to be around.

Just about everyone these days is caught up in their own mind drama. Let it pass through you and be internally clean. You will feel great to be around and love will come to you from every corner of your life. Both will help and both will open up a lot of joy for you. Good luck! Hi, Eric Charles. I just started reading some of your articles.

I came out of an abusive relationship less than a year ago. I searched for articles on the topics of relationships between men and women. And I do as well find things that are practical.

I need to say thank you. Well, how about being interested in something I like? Too many times women are told to do this or that. More than being interested in things you like, I would hope that he thoroughly loves you and enjoys your being. To forgive is to walk away from your grievance and let it go. And if you do… you can leave with your complete mind, body and soul. You can accept, forgive and move on.

Well this is the start of a late night, with me reading, like every post on this website. I really love this. I really appreciate this, thanks Eric. Long tight hugs. Making it a point to always talk to me asking for a hug whenever he saw me. This was at the community centre we both volunteered in.

Then when I tell him I like more than a friend he withdraws from me. We have had contact via texts and whatsapp since. I have found a guy on a dating site.. He lives a distance away and we have yet to meet, in the meantime, I now know that I am being needy and am doing things to push him further away…Thank you Eric..

Hey Eric, I really enjoyed reading several of your articles— they really opened up my mind and changed my perspective of things. I suppose you have answered the question of what to do, but now I must figure out how to do it. But thanks for the insight! Eric, this was so great! Thank you! Sounds like Great advice Eric, gotta use this more. I really like a particular guy and am taking my time to get to know him.

I like him and open enough to get to know him. Your tips sound like they can help me. I know I need to relax what other tips do you suggest for engaging with Ann older man?

Well done and thank you! Dear Eric…. This is a good article and and it reflects why I had failed relationships in the past… but the past is over now with a new scenario that I would never have even in dreams..!!! In reality he makes me feel good…real good…. Am not putting any pressure on that guy…. The relationship is new…. I feel this guy has great feelings for me…. I need the answer…. I must have behaved always in the right way intuitively as I was younger because I just had to watch out not to get too quickly in relationships with men.

I remember now again how keenly I was interested in details of the life of the men I was dating in my twenties…. After being in a relationship for 12 years now — that seems to work no longer for me, cause I fall in love with another man at the moment — I must have forgotten my intuitive knowledge. It seems I am out of training a bit.

Now that I have read your article I understand why my past behaviour was working so well. And I understand now what lacks in my behaviour right now towards the man I am deeply interested in.

I sense he likes me a lot, but does not dare to ask me out although he wants to, I can feel that. Of course that is not so easy because we always meet in a professional environment.

But I know now what to do I never connected that with a way of getting deeper than the superficial. They may be expected to chase without being creepy we r expected to dig without being too obvious, or making the exploration uncomfortable. I guess we all need some mystery, magic and being desired.

Thank-you very much, this has made me think of relationships as fun again whether or not it works out, because I have a clue now on how the journey should evolve. I also got alot from how u defined how a woman makes a man a winner, it would seem, finding Mr Right has alot more to do with my state of mind than finding the right gym, bar, or profile. Good job. Really excellent information.

I feel better than I have in a long time because this is something I can do and enjoy doing even if it goes nowhere. Wow, I am really impressed. Thank-you again. Thank you for sharing this. We can google anything, right?

Love, sex? Men and women? Attraction, chemistry? Thank you for sharing. I like it very much. Videmo se. You are giving me so much needed information that my brain if flooded! I always have bad luck w guys.

I never get to understand them n i most of the time end up walking away. I am tired I want my present boyfriend to turn around, he has became cold but i dont know how. Hi Eric, this article makes so much sense, especially because I can relate to it. Whenever I stopped talking to him he would contact me again.

But he invited me to his friends party and we spent time together in person for the first time. I only started to realize that I have feelings for him in March this year. Because of the feelings I was starting to have. I asked him if he had a girlfriend and he said yes. And we talked for 3 hours in his car afterwards.

We talked about my career and passion which I would never really talk to anyone about, not even my ex. We ended up kissing and it was beautiful. I stayed over and we cuddled an talked a lot. I just say there and watched him sing along. I thought things would be kind of awkward after I slept over at his, but he called me several times to make sure I was home. She is not just smart about the world but she is smart with everything around her.

She can help you with critical decisions or give you her insight about certain things that matters to you the most. She will be thoughtful and mindful about how you feel and what exactly will make a relationship better.

Imagine having different dishes in each meal. All those cuisines that you want to taste, she can make. Impatience often leads to loss, anger, and regrets. Patience is something that can give you resolve about your relationship and that is just beautiful. A strong resolve means a strong and healthy relationship. Patience makes us better humans, matures us, and gives us time to make decisions properly. Her full attention is towards him and him only. And a girl who can tackle and face challenges head-on shows the guys that even if they are not around, she will be fine.

She can take care of herself. Being strong is another quality that guys seek in a girl. A strong girl can manage her emotions and can protect the most important thing in her life. In her cute voice that just strum the strings of guys heart. All he thinks about is just that mesmerizing scene of a girl smiling at him. Seeing a girl smile really puts you in a positive mood. Men really love women who can smile brightly. Girls who care a lot are just WOW.

They will be clingy and just follow you around and take care of all your needs. Guys like to have such a girlfriend who showers them with all her love. Many guys have a dream of such a girlfriend. Hope you find one just like that. Things guys really want is the feminine side of women. Like when she wear a sexy dress and feels shy or when she changes her hair for you to a different color. Men love it when women can listen.

Good communication is something many people want. Every couple needs it to make a relationship stronger and much better. Man often craves for women who can listen better and can just laugh at every joke they tell.

It means she listens well and appreciates the man for his efforts to make her laugh. It just means she is confident in wearing such clothes. Women may have a curvy body, or a slim body, or even a sexy body with everything a man fantasizes about.

There are just so many body shapes and sizes! Most men can share their fantasies with confidence with their partners but some are still afraid to talk about them. Nowadays most of the couples who are dating cuddle often to enjoy each other bodies and feel relaxed and think about nothing else but love. Who show their femininity with pride and appear to be enjoying what she wants and needs. Men really enjoy talking romance with women. And when women can manage and talk the same is just out of this world.

Imagine being cheesy to your woman and she replies with the same cheesiness. Just think about it. Women who are grateful and appreciative make them a person that is liked by everyone in the world. A woman who can teach a man how to build confidence, how to love himself, how to act and speak properly and think about the future that can be obtained through visions and dreams is something extraordinary.

Women are mature when they are even so very young and can think far in the future or plan ahead unlike men. Women inspire you to think about endless possibilities that you can achieve by being not afraid and having more focus on things that are more important. A woman that can play instruments and make music is such a fascinating thing. Everyone loves music all over the world and music is a language that everyone can speak and understand. Men enjoy dating women who can play music. Because they are that much interested in this quality.

Men like women who are creative. Who can turn ordinary things into extraordinary! Who thinks outside the box and are not afraid of limitless and endless thoughts.

Men often find themselves lacking confidence. What they need is a morale boost, having confidence in themselves and to be a better and healthy person. Men come across as weak when they have no confidence but why worry when your woman can believe in you. Every man loves sexy women. But men often differentiate on what makes a woman sexy?

Every man has a different taste. For example, wearing a naughty dress is what most men really like to see. Or it can be just her simple laugh or her needy side or like how she is playful when you sweet talk with her.

What I mean is, her sexiness can be anything and that anything is something that men want. Men or women, all make mistakes. What matters is to have a big heart that wants to forgive. WE matter. Us matter. There is no ME in relationships. Communication is key in every relationship. A woman is your best friend when you are her boyfriend. She is your everyone and everything. Her feelings, her friends, her feminine side just about everything.

She gives you her soul.